Still Open #34

Always Open: Still Open #34

Join Barbara Dunkelman, Mica Burton, and special guests Arryn Zech and Samantha Ireland as they discuss a fan submitted sexpertise question.

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  • gem_scheltema FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RTBox reviews each month

    1 month ago

    Friendship is like sexuality. Pretty fluid...or able to adapt. I don't know how exactly to put it. But friendships change all the time because circumstances hardly ever stay the same. They ladies have it right: it's about the effort you put in.
    In high school my father made the decision that we were moving from suburbia to somewhere pretty rural (in comparison). While it's only 100km away, less than an hour of travel - 15 year old me was terrified I'd lose everyone I'd come to love. A few friends in particular I'd had for almost 5 years at that point, and they were my security blanket; another I'd only known for a few but she was my best friend. And I made a decision to travel and stay at the same school, and it was a big change - I used to live a minute's walk from school. That changed to waking up at 6am and getting home at 5pm for three years.

    wanted to show them that I was their friend and that I didn't want that to change. I don't regret that. And I'm still close friends with them now, 7 years later! And my best friend made the effort to come and have sleepovers and shit all the time, and she still does - she was basically the only one that did. It wasn't a requirement but it's really nice to have that. Even though I went to university with a few of my close friends, it wasn't the same as high school. You grow up and have commitments to things. We had a lot of friends, and we don't all hang out a lot together, people break off into smaller groups. I barely talk to who I consider my close friends, because I don't feel like we need that. Maybe they don't consider me a close friend anymore, but if that's the way it is, then that's the way it is.

    Friendship depends on the person, and if this girl having a baby and a guy is what her life becomes, you have to accept that's what she's doing. Unless it's seriously bad, then it's not something you can interfere in, you just gotta do your best to insert yourself in a considerate way. I think the young age is really contributing to this feeling of 'oh no what do I do'. You guys are young, and I think you'd have found if this happened down the track, it wouldn't be so scary, because you'd have felt some of the effects of aging.

    P.S. I'm like thiiiiis close to wanting Arryn to stop being so adorable about bumblebee. Yet, I won't ever reach the point of wanting her to stop, because nothing can nor should it cure such a wonderful ailment such as loving bumblebee.

  • PhantomFeathers FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    JUHLAPENO????????


    We call it halapiño...............well, I guess someone had to try one-upping Mariel's salted lemon.


    Also, Arryn Zech = comic relief in serious times.

    • Shinisuryu FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      Don't know for sure of course, but I'm gonna guess she's saying it wrong on purpose. Me and a few friends do that.

  • headswedance FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    i thought barb was referencing bumblebee too arryn, don't worry 

  • KLJB13 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Arryn and Barbara's friendship reminds me of my best friend and I.

  • JulesQJones FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    (Updated:) That's a fair point @gem_scheltema

    • gem_scheltema FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RTBox reviews each month

      1 month ago

      I mean, yeah. Though I wouldn't call it hate, more a, can you not just mention how you don't like somebody, nobody really wants to see that. Especially if they do look up to them or just find them nice.
      The community is really into downvoting people that solely comment about dislike for somebody, which is something I find is a positive thing. You're allowed to find her annoying, and yeah, you are allowed to comment it - but it's a question of should you. Personal things like that don't contribute much. Just a thing to think about, mate!(not trying to be condescending, js)

    • gem_scheltema FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RTBox reviews each month

      1 month ago

      @JulesQJones thanks for considering my point of view :) Just so you know, I didn't downvote you - I thought a comment would be more constructive. I find the voting system a bit too extreme in both + and -, since it's all subjective.

  • adrianragot FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Friends from school can be the greatest friends you'll ever have, I've been best friends with someone since kindergarten, and while my friendships with my other grad classmates were pretty strong, they did dwindle after school. You really do feel a deep connection with a best friend, and they could be miles away but always there for you.

  • Bearly-Dressed FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Awwwh, Sam getting a bit choked up talking about the importance of having a friend when she was feeling overwhelmed with being a new mom and not really having help during a hard time almost made me teary-eyed too. I'm in the category of being that friend in their late-20's checking in on my friends around the same age as me, only they are married, having kids, etc. and my life is significantly more uh, "me-centered", but even though we don't correspond regularly, at the end of the day it's still important to let people know you care and are thinking about them.

  • DallasVakarian

    2 months ago

    Arryn is too precious for this world

  • Gwab5 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    I really only have guy friends, and Arryn is like 100% how I interact with the females I know. This year is really the first year there is a girl who genuinely wants to be my friend and it's such a new experience and we have started having talks like on Always Open and I have never connected with a Roosterteeth employee like I do with Arryn. 



    ESPECIALLY when I'm drunk/tipsy.

  • MtnDewKing FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    7:03 thats me :/ 

  • Droy91 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Arryn is the definition of adorable!! omg!!

  • RogueMusicFreak FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Keeper of Rhythm

    2 months ago

    I love that Arryn is fangirling when she hears anything that has to do with Bumbleby. 

  • TMeisterJ FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Level 5 Laser Lotus

    2 months ago

    "I am, banana squisher (clicks tongue) call me!" That quote had me rolling. Arryn is too damn adorable.  

  • Icky427 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Icky

    2 months ago

    someone plz dub sam's "this is fucking scary" over chibi nora

  • cdtadoft FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Oh, Bumblebee, y'all are funny.

  • Hunt3r2010 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Could we get sam or arryn on me vs drunk me I think it would be great to see their reactions 

  • RoseSchneeBelladonnaXiaoLong FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Arryn getting flustered about Bumbleby was cute as shit  blake yang

  • FPChris FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    "JaLApenjo"


    wtf. Jalapeno please

    • LtOBrien FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      That's what they said. Jah-lah-pen-oh. ;)

    • Xander27 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      o-o did you mean for them to pronounce it correctly in spanish as in "hala-pen-yo"?


      P.S. Sam did say it correctly after Barbs crunched on it lol

  • hunter559 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    This girl sounds like a perfect candidate for abortion. She fucking destroyed her life because she is too stupid to use birth control. The guys fault as well. Like they are 18, just stupid kids, I feel as though, except on rare occasions, you are barely a person at that age.

    • PanyeEast FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Panye East

      2 months ago

      Dude, if they are want to keep the kid at that age its fine, it wasn't even a question about abortion and you cant really make a call on what a couple should do with their child from the very little information you know about them. 

    • cantab1611 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      With all due respect, shut the fuck up

    • saltybird FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      Bro you need help

    • Icky427 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Icky

      2 months ago

      i have to agree. she didnt say she wanted to have a kid, she "made peace" with the fact that its happening. thats what you do when something is happening to you that you DONT want, you "make peace" with it. that is NOT the attitude a mother should have. everyone would be better off if she had not gone through with it (including the kid). ya, i know, its a tough pill to swallow, but life is scary sometimes.

    • hunter559 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      I am sorry people can't face reality

    • RogueMusicFreak FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Keeper of Rhythm

      2 months ago

      You claim to be a psycologist on your profile. Well if you really are, i definetily would not go to you for advice/help. You give other people of your working field a bad name.

    • MissVengeance FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      nowhere did anyone say they didn't use brith control. Condoms aren't 100% effective and neither is the pill. Also some people are just extremely fertile. If she has chosen to keep the child, don't have a go at her. There's so much we don't know about their situation, no one is in any position to judge them.

    • gem_scheltema FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RTBox reviews each month

      1 month ago

      The only thing you said that makes sense is "barely a person at that age".

      If you're really a psychologist, you'd give some fucking input into the situation that wasn't "oh she should die wah wah I don't agree with it". I'm halfway qualified to be a psych and this comment makes me so disappointed.

  • UntilNexTime FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    I love how Arryn's reaction to hearing the word 'bumblebee' is thinking it's about her and Barbara.  blake  yang Bless her for doing what a lot of people do and asking your friends if they're still friends. XD

  • moriuh FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold bees???

    2 months ago

    This was really helpful for me, my best friend moved out of state to be with a guy when she was 19 and she ended up getting pregnant a year and a half later and it's definitely changed our friendship. I totally get where the person that asked the question is coming from, you're living in totally different worlds now. And I sometimes stress out about the fact we rarely talk, but whenever she's visiting or I go and visit her, it's like nothings changed so, idk, this is reassuring.

  • LLLLetsShadles FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Arryn is freaking cute, her personality is adorable

    • Arkatox FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      2 months ago

      Yes we know. :)

  • DrpTheBass FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Sponsor

    2 months ago

    How did the sound tech not tell Barbara to take off the jangly jewellry 

  • PhantomAC FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Not Otaku, Just Nerd

    2 months ago

    Consider your luck. (all of you.)


    Friendship is one (if the only) human condition that surpasses ALL definitions. There is no effort, years can pass, social circles will move on, but a friend is a friend.


    So I'll direct this to the younger members; enjoy and persue you're you're life, You will be honestly surprised in your elder years who is just a friend for friendship.


    The rest are trying to solve their own problems through you.


    Cheers!   tropical_drink

  • Luxaria FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Arryn constantly asking if people are her friends is so relatable. Also she's actually hilarious, her just off the cuff comments are so funny.


    Love all of these gals though- a great group that works really well together.

  • omgwtfapples FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Audio is out of sync

  • DizzyTiger FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    BUMBLEBEEEE

  • DamnPeaches FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold DamnPeaches

    2 months ago

    the post show should be like 50:00 min

  • Arkatox FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    My mom got married when she was 18. Doesn't do much to my self-esteem now that I'm 20 and have never even had a girlfriend. :P


    She and my dad are still together after 38 years, though; so that's awesome.

    • Icky427 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Icky

      2 months ago

      dude i just turned 29, i got you beat!

  • FirstJerry FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Bumblebee confirmed!!!

    • Eulsam FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Eulsam

      2 months ago

      Arryn will have to fight Aaron though for this to happen!