Still Open #44

Always Open: Still Open #44

Join Barbara Dunkelman, Arryn Zech, Lindsay Jones, and Kara Eberle as they discuss how to tell if someone is right for you.

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  • misfits92 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    I honestly had that moment after my ex and I broke up that ALL, literally every single one, of my friends told me that she wasn't great and they didn't like her.

  • PhantomFeathers FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    p chill advice for a question that can be hard to answer.

    I think a lot of this applies to friendships too.


    One point I really want to emphasize: getting outside perspective. You can gain quite a bit of insight about a situation from someone who's not involved, whether it's about friendships or relationships or bowling team drama or what-everrrrrrrrr.

  • sleepyguyy FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Fuck that was boring. But I suppose they wanted to get the word out.............

    Wait a sec this is the post show.............  What the fuck?

  • PhantomHearts_ FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    I haven't been in a relationship yet, but this delivered some very true things, like how trust is the number one most important asset to a relationship. When my time comes for it, I'll probably establish a good friendship with the girl first. I'd want us both to go in already trusting eachother.


    Love you guys, and I can't wait for all-new RWBY tomorrow!

  • benb55 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    To me I feel that this post show is important enough that it should be published publicly to YouTube at some point. Especially with everything coming out about Harvey Weinstein and the guy from Screen Junkies. It is amazing to see the number of people coming out to share their experiences and it motivating people to stand up for themselves. Even Terry Crews coming out and saying he has been sexually assaulted and harassed. People would think that being a large, built guy like that would make you safe from experiences like that, but it just goes to show it can happen to just about anyone and unless people learn to stand up, and have those around them be willing to support them and not immediately dismiss accusations the cycle of abuse will just continue.

    • rebkos FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      Yeah can we have like... a member vote on some of these videos?  "FIRST members, this is special content just for you that you paid for, do you think this should go public?" and then we can all go "YES" :D

  • lunchbox893 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Self-Named King of Zing

    2 months ago

    My girlfriend has moved to Japan to teach for a year. That's a 14 hour time difference. We talk every night until I pass out. It's really hard to get much more long distance than that. And we talked about splitting up just for the year (which I wasn't happy with) or having an open relationship or friends with benefits (which she wasn't happy with). And so, we're still together, even though we'll be living on opposite sides of the world until next August.

    • foreverfayth FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      Just wanna say I hope things work out for you. Long-distance sucks. Good luck for you and your girlfriend :)

    • lunchbox893 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Self-Named King of Zing

      1 month ago

      Thank you. I really appreciate that.

  • clover_jevins FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    I wonder how many people broke up with there partner after watching this, I know I thought about it but one important thing to take from this episode is that you have to find the wrong person to find the right one because who knows what they really truly want until they find what they don't want? 

  • CyberLambo101 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Change isn't always bad. Heck, at times it can be actually beneficial depending on the individual. I'm not talking about being a completely different person just for the sake of the relationship and therefore compromise one's "happiness". Some relationships can bring out the best of an individual by doing so.


    If your out looking for someone, ask yourself this: Do I seek just physical/mental pleasure from that person (lust), or do I want something meaningful, a "connection". If someone is approaching you and you are not certain if they are just teasing/pulling your chain, try out the "brutally honest" route and ask them the above questions and whatever happens-happens.

  • BelladonnaFawkes FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    they talked about help hotlines in the episode here is a link to a list of hotline numbers

    http://www.pleaselive.org/hotlines/ 

  • gem_scheltema FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RTBox reviews each month

    2 months ago

    Seeing someone you love in a bad relationship is so goddamn frustrating...I can't imagine what it's like to be the person, or not even realise that you are the person. I wish schools would teach kids about being good to others, not abusive, not controlling, how to get help if they're being abused, because it's always going to be a problem. No matter how strong the next generation is, and even though I do think each one gets more assertive and knowledgeable on this, it's just a fact that some people think it's okay to abuse or they can't even realise they're doing it.

    It's far more common in the older generation thanks to those societal expectations they had - my own mother didn't know what gaslighting was until I told her. To think of how many people have been controlled and manipulated because 'that's just how it is'? It makes me sick.


    If only educating was more geared towards actually helping mental health instead of teaching you algebra or something you literally will never use, people would be much better equipped. Since it's not, we have to go to relationship psychologists or a phone line or whatever to learn that we're being mistreated, and it's sad. I was learning at university in a psychology course at the age of 20 about abusive relationships and similar, which is much too late an age - and it wasn't even compulsory, nor is university available to everyone. At the age of 20 some people are already trapped, some people have already been manipulated to accept abuse.


    It should be repeatedly told to us while we grow up that we deserve to be loved and how to see when someone isn't loving you like they tell you they are.

  • Cade117 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    It feels weird watching this and knowing that Arryn and Miles broke up for one, if not a few, of those reasons. It mostly just feels weird knowing alot about one of those ended relationships that they're talking about. As much as you can possibly know about someones relationship through social media alone, anyways. 


    Still, loved the video and I wish that it was in the public one, if for no other reason than it could help out ALOT of people who may be struggling with their own relationships. You talk about stuff some people need to hear, and I hope they do hear it in one form or another.

  • deviouslyxnice FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold 1000% Tsun

    2 months ago

    The reason why I love the Jones' is because they're imperfect. If you've been watching since the beginning; it's pretttyy obvious. I love that and that's why every time they do cute little things on-camera [like rubbing off a smudge off their face, cheek pinching etc.] it makes my heart grow 3 times bigger xD; My relationship is the same where we are two completely different people but why we're together is because of the sheer amount of honest communication, compromises, the value of time, and trust. 


    I was in a 6 year relationship in high school which ended in me realizing he didn't give two shits about my mental health [MDD plus anxiety and stuff] and liked how I was working a lot to spend money and such. I thought it was normal and it wasn't actually until I met my husband that he proved me that we're meant to be treated with love and respect. 


    To clarify what the girls said btw: Telling someone that you'll kill yourself if they leave is NOT OKAY. That is not OKAY under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. If someone ever uses that against you.. First, YES FUCK YOU ASSHOLE.. SECONDLY, take the necessary actions in getting the person threatening you an intervention, so you can make some space between them and yourself. Whether is buying your time or immediately taking some form of action but no one should ever have to be forced to do something for the sake of someone else's happiness. ENDRANT;;

  • JayNut FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Verified RT Scrobbler

    2 months ago

    Lindsey bringing a little OffTopic there at the end. 
    This is such a good show.

    • Icky427 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Icky

      2 months ago

      lindsay is always open's "last call jack" lol

  • shutupdee FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    I was emotionally abused by a YouTuber who is now pretty popular (this happened 2 years ago) and it really fucked me up. I wanna talk about it and call him out but at the same time I don't to fuck up his career and have a bunch of people turn against me. Victim blaming sucks. I sent an email to you guys about it going more in depth about it so hopefully you'll see that and be able to get to it at some point (eventually, lol)

    • deviouslyxnice FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold 1000% Tsun

      2 months ago

      I'm using the ditto as kind of a bump. I'm sorry.

    • bigtoblerone FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      You should definitely contact a professional who deals with emotional abuse and ask about confidential or anonymous ways in which you can expose his actions or if necessary prosecute him. He should not get away with what he did to you.

  • Nebukadnedzar FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    "Hey, thats abusive, HIGH FIVE!!!"   Made me chuckle. :D   Also, really enjoyed Arryns delightfully quirky sillynes, really happy seeing her on the show. :)

  • UntilNexTime FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    2 months ago

    Great advice in this. Hearing that you ladies have had troubles like that makes me want to give you all a hug but knowing that you're finding/found people that make you happy makes me smile. :D

  • Hypeoster FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Achievement Hunter

    2 months ago

    This shit lit fam