Looks like less than a month to go and he might be coming out here to CO to stay with me. Mom & Dad crashing at my place so dad can go to the VA outpatient rehab here. That way mom has some support and they can be by their kids. My sister lives here too in the same neighborhood.
It's weird, seeing a family member trapped inside a body that doesn't work yet. He's getting better, relearning things using challenging physical therapy. Still, it hits everyone different I guess. He's in there, but his body is all messed up atm. That would feel like a prison I bet. ugh. Horrifying thought.
I also found out the VA, Veterans Hospital, they rank veterans with a number scale. If you don't have a scale of 70, you don't get a lot of the care. He can't do inpatient, they won't pay for a bed, not even at the VA itself. Doesn't deserve it, not a high enough service record. No idea how they rank veterans.
Dad always thought the VA would take care of him. He was wrong, and we are learning this the hard way. Rehab is between $300 & $600 a day. It's a lot, but if it gets him on his feet again it's worth it.
I have to make my house rehab friendly. Building ramps and stuff. He's a fall risk so he'll be in a wheelchair and then use a walker as he gets back on his feet. He laid in bed for almost 2 months. That makes you weak. Plus brain surgery, that messes with his balance.
Hell of a thing