"The time has come [...] to talk of many things" (The Walrus and the Carpenter, Lewis Carroll)
Basically this happened - I got a job (paid well, normal hours, easy commute, nice coworkers), I'm paying off debt, and I'm heading to Orlando later this month for a conference (ALA Annual) and touristy stuff. Not what I wanted to discuss though.
I am not on this site as actively as I used to be - big surprise, you've seen the various posts in regards to this. I went through a similar thing with the LiveJournal community around the time I started lurking here and before that I went through it with YahooGroups and before that AOL Chat Hell. Its a factor of the internet that no community is impervious to the stretch of time. Some fare better for longer (Reddit for example), but those are exceptions to rules.
RT has, as I've told folk in person and also discussed in various posts in my journal and in the forums, been a life saver for me in a lot of ways. When I began posting in the forums, posting journals and attending RTX as a Guardian (and Spectre) I don't think I can form the words the community meant to me.
Me. Lexie. The girl with so many books there's an actual bet whether they will one day bludgeon me to death. The girl that has gone through so many names I remember when I met people based on what alias they know me by, like rings in a tree denoting age. The girl folk often overlook because I'm not as comedic as my brother or as pretty as my sister or as activist as my stepsister. The girl who loves structure and patterns, but is paranoid about being predictable so I structure my unpredictably. The girl who didn't think she deserved a future so she didn't plan for it.
I probably put more of myself into being part of this community then any other since AOL Chat Hell (where I would literally spend every night for six or eight hours chatting when I was thirteen). RT managed to do the one thing neither my mother's nagging nor my peers' pressure could manage - they made me a joiner.
But I didn't attend RTX last year. I'm not attending this year. I cancelled my sponsorship. I don't post journals, I haven't been to a forum thread in so long I forget how to get to them now and I don't really comment on journals. I couldn't tell you what's happening in programming (I haven't even started season 14 of RvB nor watched season 2 or 3 or RWBY) and any information I have about the outlying issues w/the company or community are mostly gleaned from tumblr or twitter where the friends I've made here, I chat with over on those platforms.
As others have said, I've moved on to other places to continue those friendships. Places that are more convenient. Places where I have better control over who's activity I see or who sees my activity. Places where I will never be invested in like I was with RT because I could never be that invested in them. If Twitter or Tumblr fell apart tomorrow...I'd be sad, sure. But I wouldn't really have the bone-wearying anxiety exhaustion I have felt for the last year as RT's community has fallen farther and farther from what it was.
This isn't to say that growth isn't a good thing. I'm genuinely pleased that for the first time in my life something I came into that was niche has exploded in popularity. I still remember in 2005 meeting Gus and Matt for the first time at DragonCon and the small, small booth they had selling merch at in the dark corner (it was only chance I came upon the booth at all, as I was horribly lost looking for a friend and it was only chance I recognized the image of Caboose on the table and investigated).
For those I am not already in contact with otherwise here's my social media presence, since I'm not sure how often I'll return back to the site (especially after my sponsorship goes in July...hey remember when this was a cause for alarm?):
Email: Lexie.Cenni (@) gmail (.) com
Twitter I'm not as picky about who I follow/follows me, but if you want to follow me on Tumblr/Goodreads/Facebook - expect me to either question who you are (if I don't recognize you) or ignore your request. Its best to send a message so I know.