In Need of Relationship AdviceHey guys,
In the past few days Justin and I's relationship has gotten a little "rocky." We've discussed were we'd like to live/move and he brought up Spain...SPAIN!
!! How the fuck am I going to move to fucking Spain....and I told him this after I thought it out. He agreed and said it was more of a "when me get older deal". So we got talking about New Hampshire and Ohio. I told him I'd rather move to Ohio because at least there we'd have somewhere to stay (that's if the offer still stands David) while we try to find jobs. He said that he already has a job and that we can find somewhere to live in NH while I also try to find a job, which I think ...
In Need of Relationship AdviceHey guys,
In the past few days Justin and I's relationship has gotten a little "rocky." We've discussed were we'd like to live/move and he brought up Spain...SPAIN!
!! How the fuck am I going to move to fucking Spain....and I told him this after I thought it out. He agreed and said it was more of a "when me get older deal". So we got talking about New Hampshire and Ohio. I told him I'd rather move to Ohio because at least there we'd have somewhere to stay (that's if the offer still stands David) while we try to find jobs. He said that he already has a job and that we can find somewhere to live in NH while I also try to find a job, which I think is stupid.
It's not easy trying to find a well paying job these day and it would be twice as hard to try and pay rent with money you don't have. Again like I said David if the offer still stands I told him that you'd be willing to let me and him live there for a while until we can get our feet under us an get settled. Justin doesn't seem to understand that we have a better chance down in Ohio then in NH. I'm not against NH in any way. I just don't have the money to try and spend on a 800-1100 rent bill and still try to my pay my existing bill, plus utilities.
What gets me is not to long ago Justin wasn't against the idea of moving to Ohio, and then something changed. I don't know what it is, but if I were to guess I think it's that he likes being a supervisor at Wal-Mart. That he likes have that position of power over people. Not that hes a power hungry crazy person or anything, just that he likes being that boss and that he's good at it. He doesn't what to move to a different state and no longer have the authority over people that he once had. I don't think it's far to ask him to choose me over his job, but it feels like that's what's really keeping him from moving out of NH when not to long ago he was ready to move wherever.
What are your guys thought or advice. I'm really confused. I don't what to move to Ohio and have him resent me because I took something away from him and I don't what to move to Ohio and not have him there and try to carry on an even longer long distance relationship. I almost feel like this could be the end for Justin and me. It's feeling more and more like are lives are going in two different directions each day.
Please help