Actually I don't care. I just suck at naming journals and I needed something relevant with the word 'friend' in it. Sorry.

I was watching a conference interview/panel with Mark Zuckerberg recently, and the topic of privacy came up. Facebook has gotten some flack recently for their ever changing privacy settings and the policies attributed to them, specifically what people can and can't see on your profile. John Battelle (who was serving as moderator, I suppose, who I also find to be a fairly rude individual) brought up said privacy concerns, and said he doesn't like how certain parts of his profile became visible to people on his friends list; he doesn't want everyone to see everything he puts out there. Zuckerberg said something to the tune of "We believe there's some weight behind the word "friend" - if you don't want them seeing what you put on your profile, what's the point of adding them as a friend? " (That isn't exact of course, but something similar)

This struck me as interesting - why WOULD you add a bunch of people and then get upset that they can see the things you post? I mean sure, I don't tell ALL of my friends EVERYTHING, but I certainly wouldn't keep an online journal or such and then throw a fit when someone I specifically added suddenly has privileges to view said things. Sure, you don't want your boss to see those drunken photos of you from last night but then...why post them? Or why add your boss? Why set up a bunch of groups and limit the shit out of a group of people when you can just as easily NOT add them as a "friend?"

There's this weird social protocol attached to online social networking these days, but I've found it really only applies if you let it. If I'm not friends with someone, I don't "accept" or "add" them or whatever. If we were friends and we clearly aren't anymore, I remove them. It doesn't need to be this uber insulting thing that you lose sleep over or have to make a big deal out of. Why write someone an angry message about NOT being friends, and then keep the person listed? It doesn't make sense. If you don't like me, remove me. If you don't want to read the things I have to write...don't read them. If you find them insulting...I totally get it. But I'm not gonna comb through my friends list and say "hmm, ok, these people should read this and these people shouldn't"...thats fucking stupid. Be an adult and make up your own mind.

I love each and everyone one of you, but I'm not in the business of pleasing people, nor am I one for picking and choosing. And neither should you be. If you don't want to see something, don't look at it. If you don't want to be friends with someone...don't be friends with them. Eat cake and get over it. Then give me the cake you didn't eat.