Alrighty, so I haven't posted in quite a while, I get that but I never really feel I have much to share. Having said that, I have found myself getting approached more than a few times by people asking if I have any tips on establishing LDRs and more often than that, how Shelby and I manage to keep ours working despite the UK|US divide. So I've decided to share my genuine thoughts here to share on RT as there really does seem to be a lot of searching for relationships around here.
I want to start this off by saying that to be honest, actively going out of your way to find a relationship here on RT is a bit of a strange move. Relationships, regardless of local or long distance, need to progress naturally and chances are, the more you look for them, the harder it is to find one without going through a series of relationships for the sake of relationships. I know that from making that mistake frequently through school and early Uni. Even with Shelby, I hadn't been going out looking for a relationship, we just happened to meet thanks to Raf bringing her in to a game of CAH with the old Skype family. We got on well and just ended up spending more time with each other. The idea of a relationship just evolved over time from a solid friendship that we both felt was heading somewhere more. It really seems strange to me the idea of trying to find someone to date as a priority over everything else. Having said that, let's move on to some of the questions.
How do you keep in contact?
To be honest, Skype is and always will be your friend. Even from keeping in touch with my other RT friends, Skype is where everything happens. Aside from Skype, when out and about Shelby and I use What's App, or if you don't want to pay for that, Kik also does the trick. Hell, Shelby and I even used the 3DS note swap app during early days of our friendship while it was still live.
How do you deal with being so far apart?
To be honest, this is a pretty big one and it's not exactly an easy one to answer. The fact that Shelby and I started out being so far away means that as much as it sucks, it's the norm for us. As a result, every moment we actually can spend with each other feels extra special. Ultimately, the way I see it is that if someone really means that much to you, then the distance is just something you can work through. It isn't easy or fun having an entire ocean and practically a whole continent between us, but we manage to cope with it because we know that it's worth putting up with the distance for now for what will come later. As much as leaving the UK behind scares the shit out of me, I'm so excited to start my life with Shelby and I know that with her with me, I'll be fine.
How did you end up together?
Raf brought Shelby in to call while we played CAH, we had a laugh and ended up hanging out again. Gradually, Shelby and I ended up in more calls together, then she was more involved with my closer RT friends, so we hung out loads more again. The more we hung out, the more we realised we got on. To be honest, I never had the greatest in confidence when it comes to relationships, so it got to the point where Shelby outright told me how she felt which was what ended up snapping me out of my idiocy and seeing things move up a notch. As for getting engaged, it wasn't planned, but when Shelby was here visiting, I just knew that Shelby was the kind of woman I'd want to spend my life with, cheesy I know, but true. No, I didn't have a ring ready, it wasn't planned, but yes, I did get on one knee. Got to honour that tradition friends ;)
I don't have a crazy amount of time, so I'll have leave it there, but if you have anything else you want to ask me, just chuck a comment or message and I'll get back to you. Hope this helps anyway,
Druyii Out <3