Ok so I like this girl right.
I think she's cute, and decently intelligent, but has made a few rough decisions in her past. She is a year older than me and in the same major as me, and we met as lab partners in physics lab. Well we start hanging out, and it comes out that she likes me as well after we start talking one on one.
Sounds good dosn't it.
Nope, my luck with life is special.
So I suggest that we should start dating, but she is hesitant because she says she has a secret. Well with some conjoling she finally tells me that she is 5 month's pregnant with her cheating ex's baby. After this we talk a bit more, and I head back to my room, and she kisses me goodnight. I''m still interested in her, but I'm left debating not only if I have the fortitude to go out with her, but the moral delimma of if it is even right to still want to pursue a romantic relationship.
That was one week ago.
Tonight I go over to just hang out watch TV and do physics. So we take a break from work and start talking about her plans for the baby, and what shes going to do in the future (her mom and family offered to take care of her daughter while she finishes the other 3 or 4 years on her undergrad degree. We begin talking about my moral issues with pursuing a romantic relationship. She says if you really want to just be friends we can leave it at that, but I tell her I don't want to, but because I concerned about hurting her and her daughter since I don't know where I'm gonna end up in 4 or 5 years after my undergrad work is done, and that I don't honestly believe I'm ready to be a father. She begins making a case for how I would probably never see her daughter unless I absolutly pushed to see her since she would be at home with her family, and she would go back to see her on the weekends.
So we kinda let the conversation drop on my indecision about what to do morally. So we're lying on her bed watching TV and she scratches along my arm, and we start making out. Like seriously rolling around and making out in her bed. We finally stop kissing after about 20 minutes of making out/dry humping, and it's a few minutes before i need to leave to get back to my dorm to work on my other assignments. So we playfuly joke about me not being able to get out, and how she wants me to stay a bit longer. I finally get out of her bed, and up to leave the room. We makeout one more time before I leave her room, and now I'm left still confused, and I'm really at a serious loss for what to do.
I really care for her, and even if I'm not her boyfriend, I wanna be there to be a good freind, and be what little of a role model for her daughter as I can be. Since her father is basically MIA, and because I care about ehr and her daughter I want to offer her the same kinda support my mom found for me in the place of my own father.
Your thoughts and opinions on this are very much wanted so any suggestions or advice u can give would be great