txex92

Female
from Tampa, FL

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    • to post or not to post

      9 years ago

      txex92

      Last week, I decided to put up some pictures on Facebook of the damage my soon-to-be-ex did that caused me to finally leave him. This was not an easy decision, and I wanna just ramble a bit here about why I did it. Skip this journal post if this sorta stuff bores the snot outta you, it's okay.

      For several years I served on the Speaker's Bureau at the local women's shelter. I visited schools and churches and other people's workplaces lecturing about domestic violence - how common it is, what forms it takes, and how to recognize a potential victim. One of the biggest points of frustration for me is that the subject continues to be one people don't care to discuss. It's big, it's ugly, and people are afraid to confront it. If we ignore it, it doesn't exist...

      Well, talk about not seeing the forest for the freekin' trees. I was right in the middle of it. Took me 12 years to acknowledge that the emotional and psychological abuse is just as damaging, just as valid a form of violence as a thrown punch. Fortunately for me, I have enough knowledge to be able to recover from this chapter in my life. And finally had the courage to get the hell out of Dodge.

      But the ex is trying to do anything he can to make himself look like father of the year. this is because I intend to persuade the judge to allow me to move home with my children, where we will be safe and surrounded by family support. This also means the kids would have limited contact with their dad (who will stubbornly insist on remaining in Florida, despite having no ties here), so I have a bit of a job. Not insurmountable, though, and the cards are in my favor.

      Some of his tactics include going around badmouthing me to anyone who will listen. he told old friends I had 'kidnapped' the children. Even the law says this is not true. He told the kids I 'stole' the car. Again, not true, legally or otherwise - at the time I left, I bundled the children into the working one of the two vehicles in the driveway. End of discussion. He tells people the kids are miserable with me. he tried to tell this to the person who kept my youngest for me while I went to court to obtain a permanent restraining order against the ex. he tells everyone - including the courts - that what he did on August 16th was an isolated incident that will never happen again. no big deal. he 'broke a cardboard door'. It 'came off the hinges'. I 'made this happen'. This was all my fault, my doing.

      I don't need to defend my parenting ability to anyone who knows me or my children. Fortunately this includes friends, family, daycare providers and the school officials. What I do need is for folks to see what can happen when a person is desperate and backed into a corner and reacts out of rage. That my ex, who is behaving at the moment, is capable of extreme violence I cannot hope to defend against. That door could have been me.

      Never underestimate the power of words. Or tone of voice, for that matter. There's a saying - people will not remember what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel. And never feel t hat anything is too insignificant to call the police. If you feel threatened or afraid, call 'em. I wish I had sooner.

    • wow!!

      9 years ago

      txex92

      Okay, best. Weekend. EVER. Thanks, y'all, for making me feel the love and welcoming me back home. You know who you are... :-)

      Took my 5th grader's 'Flat Panther' with me. Those of y'all with school age kids will be familiar with Flat Stanley. Same thing, but the elementary school mascot is the Panther, so we personalized it:

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    • opening weekend

      9 years ago

      txex92

      well, well. Texas wins. Happy 'bout that. Florida wins. Meh. Overrated. ou? BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Breaking News...

      10 years ago

      txex92

      Some of you know that in the process of obtaining this bitterly contested divorce I planned to move home to Texas. It was looking for all the world that I was really going to have to fight uphill all the way on that one. First I'd need primary custody of the kids (pretty much a lock) then I'd have to petition the court to allow me to move them out of state (not as locked as I'd like).

      We had our mediation on Monday morning. They talked to both of us for 5 minutes. Then they talked to just me. Then they talked to just Brad. Then me again. Then him again. Then they talked to both of us and we signed an impasse. This is a piece of paper that says 'y'all wouldn't budge so now you get to let the judge decide'. Got my final hearing date - this is the day we have our 30 minutes in court and get our divorce. Finally. On DECEMBER 10th. Ugh. Four more months of this crap. I was not happy, but at least it's better than March.

      So that evening after having a few calm-down beers with friends, I get home. He's decided not to fight anymore. And he decided to move...to Austin with me & kids. And I still get my divorce.

      This was what I first put on the table back in February when we started all the paperwork. He said then he would 'think about it'. Then his GF started planting all sorts of things in his head and he got nasty and yanked Austin off the table. As a result of her meddling, the past three months has been rather hellish; those of you who actually take the time to read this drivel I publish know that already.

      So. Back to Monday evening. Not a lot of emotion, or at least, not a lot of yelling this time. For a change. But I told him that I saw only two paths before me, and both lead to misery: A) stay in Florida with the kids, and be miserable because I would still be detached and IN FLORIDA or B) move home, but without my children and be devastated. I can never be the mother who abandons her kids. I would die without them.

      We have some practical things to work out. How to sell the house. When to move - I am job-hunting already, so if I get a bite before the divorce is final we will move then and fly back for the hearing. Otherwise, it would be good to wait until after the hearing - when the kids are on Winter break anyway. Easier on them. In any case, I fully expect to be home for the holidays...for the first time in 13 years.

      We are going to get some counseling in the meantime so we can better co-parent our kids. I made it very clear that there was no hope in that of reconciling the marriage - this has to be only about the children; he agreed.

      I want this with all my heart, and as such am very hesitant to get excited about it. My life has been liberally sprinkled with folks who make empty promises, and I have had my hopes dashed all too often. But there's just enough hope still in me somewhere - just enough to daydream about SXSW, which will happen during my birthday next March. Taking my kids to the strawberry festival and watching them play with their uncles and cousins. Hell, letting my mother take her grandsons while I go get a pedicure...or whatever. smiley8.gif Watching my beloved Longhorns steal the glory out from under the Gators' reptilian noses...from the safety of my burnt Orange home in January.

      All in all, I am expecting a very, very happy, very hope-filled new year. And it's only August.

    • DAMMIT

      10 years ago

      txex92

      I wanna go shoe shopping and I switched bags and don't have my rewards certificates with me!!! smiley4.gif

    • return to top of page

      10 years ago

      txex92

      okay, it was bugging me so I asked Dimono about the absence of the 'return to top of page' button on every page in the new & improved RT.

      He said the 'home' key on your keyboard should do it. Mine didn't. But the up arrow key did.

      So if you're bugged by having to actually expend energy scrolling up (I luvs my trackball mouse!) you now have a couple of solutions.

    • WTF is wrong with FB??

      10 years ago

      txex92

      Anyone else in FB Land having probs this morning??

    • pet peeves...

      10 years ago

      txex92

      like anybody really cares, right? I'm bored, so what the hell...

      10. less than an inch of koolaid/juice/tea/milk in the fridge

      9. slow drivers in the fast lane

      8. folks who yell across my cubicle...while I'm on the phone

      7. mean people

      6. black stockings with white shoes (shudder)

      5. bad parenting

      4. women wearing open-toe shoes but NO pedi

      3. grown people who use 'u' for 'you' and '4' instead of 'for'

      2. empty promises (and empty promisERs)

      1. two-inch roots. Touch that mess up already. Pulling your hair into a pony makes it WORSE.

    • the elephant in the corner ...

      10 years ago

      txex92

      Today I woke up, got about my morning, and headed in to the office. Tripped downstairs to get my green tea, but decided to skip the Cuban toast today - thanks though, Sue. Scanned the 86 emails waiting patiently in my inbox - read the ones who looked rather impatient. Just like every other day of much of my adult life. But it wasn't supposed to be like that this morning.

      I was supposed to wake up in another city, stretch lazily, and snuggle back in next to the only man in the world who has ever treated me, spoken to me, like I think I deserve. Spend a few beautiful days in love, enjoying some much-needed emotional sunshine after so much darkness. Obviously this is not happening.

      So. Am I wrong for believing I can trust someone, or wrong to expect some promises, once made, to be fulfilled? At what point is a girl no longer eligible to have those expectations? Is there an expiration date printed somewhere on the back of my leg? Is it conditional - 'you can reap happiness IF ...' ?

      Am I supposed to be content with being SuperMom, perhaps? Well, I spend a good deal of my time & energy taking care of many others, beginning with the three most important people. I am at the bottom of the list. Will someone actually ever step up and take care of me for a change? I really don't require much in the way of 'care-and-feeding', so to speak: honesty, affection, and someone else to make the arrangements once in a while. I don't think that's too much, really.

      But perhaps I am wrong...

    • ReRun from LN

      10 years ago

      txex92

      I posted this in LN last fall. Thanks to davew2010 for reminding me about it:

      Dictionary For Men
      (1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

      (2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

      (3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

      (4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

      (5) Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

      (6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

      (7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever' - see below).

      (8) Whatever : This is a woman's way of saying #$%& YOU!

      (9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3. Again.

      Posted 5 months ago (10/24/08 8:13AM) by txex92 | Comments (3) | Edit | Delete

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  • Comments (403)

    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

      Glad to know you're back where you want to be as well!!! Hopefully something will open up soon!!!

    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

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    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

      whats shakin bacon!

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      Where U at?!? Are you in Austin yet???? DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!

    • cheeser FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      9 years ago

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    • rr24

      9 years ago

      I'm still alive. I've just been very busy on the homefront. Many activities in this new residence I moved into about 3 months ago.

      Lots of activities and construction projects. Many hobbies and Orangebloods taking too much of my time. Plus I've been to nearly every game.

      We got our notification on Sunday that we 'would' be getting tickets for the Big12 CCG.

      Man, December is gonna be crazy for me. Gonna try to hit one of the volleyball games either Thursday or Friday. This weekend, Big12 CCG. December 12th driving down to Corpus, gonna DJ my parents 75th birthday celebration. December 18th is Pub Crawl. Then Christmas driving back to Corpus for 4 days to celebrate Christmas like I haven't celebrated with them in 4 years. Then celebating NYE here. Then NY morning, driving back to Corpus to spend a week with the folks, before I fly out to Vegas on the 6th. Then being picked up by my buddy to drive to So. Cali for the MNC.

      Of course all those plans to Vegas, SoCal and the MNC are moot if we do not win v. NU. However, I have complete faith in the 'Horns'.

      As wild as all that seems, it has been that kind of football season for me. To tell you the truth, ..... I'm pretty fucking exhausted.

      I'm to be quite honest, getting burnt out with all that I do and try to do. I can't wait for FB season to be over, so I can get some peace and quiet. (Sarcasm intended. Wink / Wink)

      Let me know when you move to Austin.

      Hook 'Em!

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      Yes. I listen to 'Scottish Guy' every friday afternoon. SG is impersonated by afternoon, 1530 am radio host Chad Hastings.

      Chad and Geoff Ketchum, a.k.a. Ketch, the founder of Orangebloods, do the afternoon slot on ESPN austin called 'The Drive'.

      Hastings started 'The Scottish Guy', back in 2006 right before the MNC game against USC.

      I actually wake up early, so I can catch the 4:40 p.m. time slot in which SG appears.

      Each appearance totally makes my afternoon. Although there is one item of consistency with SG that is startling.

      He always predicts the same score.

      Texas 62, ...... (opponent done in scottish accent here) 3.

      Hmmmm?

      Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha!


      Hook 'Em!

    • champs2005

      9 years ago

      Thanks Amy I thought I told you at the Tech Tailgate. anyways should be here in late Feb. or early March.

    • NM_TXLADY

      9 years ago

      You are quite welcome :-) Will text you this afternoon after the interview. Can't wait for y'all to move here.

    • PGM35

      9 years ago

      Aw - thanks! I see Rich responded to you that he's on facebook again? New name and email? PM me!

    • NM_TXLADY

      9 years ago

      I agree totally. His behavior is beyond "normal". Glad you are comin back to Texas.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      Alright, alright. I guess I'll make a cameo appearance every now and then. I just don't know how I'm gonna respond to your add, since it is on the e-mail, that I can't respond with. Kind of funny how that happened.

      I'll be serious in the next few days, establish a new e-mail account, and go by my real name.

      By the way, you have to look for another guy by the same name. That will be me. It's under gmail. I'll send you that e-mail address in a PM.

      I'm only gonna do this for you and PGM. If it weren't for you guys, I would completely blow it off.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      HaHa! Trying to lure me into the dark side, are you.

      I've been incognito on that site for 3 days now, and .... I'm already fed up with it. Found lots of past friends, but I really don't want to converse.

      If something comes up, like the LN, I'll let you know. As of now, Orangebloods, is sufficient for me. I keep up with the guys on the radio here in Austin, and I have even called in a few times. I get my fix off them.

      Who knows? Maybe I'll warm up to FB, but as of right now, I highly doubt it.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      I'm not a smart-aleck. I'm just smart.

      Bwahahahaha!!!

      You need to move back home. Stat!

      Talk to you tomorrow. Good night.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      Yes, I hate this site too. I just stick around for the Longhorns group forum, of which I am the only member. Hooray!!!

      It's just that I hate FB and others like it, even more.

      Don't worry. I'm always on e-mail. (HaHa!!)

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      HaHa! No, I am not avoiding you. I am not revealing my true identiy on FB, because, I only joined to clown around and make fun of the people that wanted me to join.

      I've been slowly searching for them, and have been delaying 'drive-by' comments. I'm just waiting for the oppurtune time.

      Once I've done that, I'm done with FB. I just don't want to ever be known to associate on that site. It's just not my thing.

      I feel the same way about 'Mywaste', and 'Twit'.

    • champs2005

      9 years ago

      Thanks Amy it was great meeting you as well and I hope everything works out for you soon.

    • txex92

      9 years ago

      thank you. Will need either two celebrations or one big family-friendly one. My kids need a party, too!!! I already owe each of them a beer or two when they are legal...

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      Well, when you get back, we're all taking you out to celebrate your arrival back 'home'.

      Hook 'Em!

    • MANxXx561XxX

      9 years ago

      hey there

    • Dopp ROLL TIDE

      9 years ago

      Haha! I was going to do "Brains" but decided to do "Brians" instead. No worries! It was on purpose. smiley8.gif

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      Where you at? You're never on anymore. At least not when I'm on. I think, you're avoiding us. (HaHa!) J/K

      How was your labor day weekend?

      To tell you the truth, I hope I never pick up another beer bottle again. If I don't catch cirrhosis this week, well then, I truly have a liver made of teflon.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      HaHa! I was just playing with the buttmunch talk.

      I was really giddy last night, after the win, and the BlowU loss. I felt like being a kid.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      What's up buttmunch?!?

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      HaHa!! I was just kidding about the weird part. I had been drinking a bunch of Hefe-Weizen that morning. (Surprise, Surprise!)

      Really though, you are awesome.

    • rr24

      9 years ago

      You and Pgm35 are weird.

    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

      insurance Schminsurance...

      just get this guy and all your money problems are solved

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    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

      What kind of crap is that?!?! The school wasn't going to let AB use the schools logo on beer? I guess the university should protect students from rent a car agencies also since they can't rent them until they're 25...

    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

      I'm Select!!!

      Like some beers!!! smiley8.gif

    • DRUM57IX

      9 years ago

      *whispers*
      Pssss

      glad to see you're talking more!!! smiley8.gif

    • Toddt1

      10 years ago

      Hey Rich, can you send me that pic of colt?? he looks cute!! lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • DRUM57IX

      10 years ago

      They don't call police work a brotherhood for nothing!!! smiley8.gif

      And maybe if you and PGM got back into the JJ group, then we'd be able to talk more!!!

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      I was just on Orangebloods, and there was a link to a photo shoot starring Colt McCoy. He is supposed to be the featured story on the August 24th issue.

      Anyway, I thought I'd send this photo your way, and try to cheer up your day.

      Enjoy!

      Colt.jpg


      Hook 'Em!

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      Oh, yes she can. Anytime.

      Whats up, Miss Texex92, aka Amy?

      Ready for some football?

    • DRUM57IX

      10 years ago

      its 12:18am, and ou STILL sucks

    • disneyjedi87 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      10 years ago

      I'm sure she will. It's for her birthday tomorrow.

    • disneyjedi87 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      10 years ago

      Seasons 2 and 3 of The Nanny for my sister.

    • disneyjedi87 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      10 years ago

      Yeah, I always forget to print them out, and when I do remember it is too late. Didn't forget yesterday though.

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      Nice talking to ya. I'm off to bed now. Talk to you next week.

      Hook 'Em!

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      Good morning. Sending you a PM right now.

    • La_bella

      10 years ago

      I have more important things to worry about...like food haha

    • DRUM57IX

      10 years ago

      Mizzou-rah!

      oh..wait...wrong kind of tiger, huh smiley8.gif

    • SSglasseye

      10 years ago

      ah...herro!! haven't found much time to get on here lately. how are things in your world?? hope all is well and you are having a great summer. i can't wait for football season!!!

    • NM_TXLADY

      10 years ago

      Mine was long.....was workin all weekend.

    • NM_TXLADY

      10 years ago

      Hey chica!!! How was your weekend??

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      Where you at? Where ya at? Where b u at?

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      I still think you should try out for the Pom Squad.

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      HaHa! No Facebook for me. Mayo and Facebook are synonyms in the lexicon of rr24.

    • rr24

      10 years ago

      I think you should try out for the Pom Squad.

    • NM_TXLADY

      10 years ago

      Morning smiley0.gif . Hows your week goin so far??

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